"Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond where you are." - Cherie Carter-Scott
You know those "aha" moments when you suddenly have an epiphany? Sometimes, they can even be accompanied by a sense of relief or a feeling as though your heart is opening. Well I happened to experience a huge one the other day.
For quite some time, I had been holding on to my resentment against someone in my family for the way they had treated me in the past. I knew in my mind that I would need to let go of this at some point. But my heart somehow needed more time to "get it".
And in the most unlikely of circumstances I heard the right words at the right time and suddenly not only was I able to forgive with ease, but I also felt grateful to that person for having allowed me to go through the process of feeling anger, resentment and eventually forgiveness.
It even became insignificant to me whether or not they understood or apologised. If it hadn't been for them, I would not have been given this opportunity to grow beyond where I was. And that to me suddenly became more important than an apology.
I think it is no coincidence that this shift happened now. This is a very interesting month. Don't be surprised if things shift for you too and trust that it's really for the best.